This post is the first among my Short & Simple category—short realizations I’m come to almost always while journaling my own problems.
Rarely in life is force a necessity. Most executions of force eventually backfire.
Force within a relationship strains trust.
Force in the body often leads to injury.
Force within the mind saps the spirit of self-compassion.
What is the alternative remedy? A dismantling of the motivations for what was deemed necessary force. Assessing the reasoning for the failure of an intended outcome should always take precedence over force.
Why isn’t this relationship going the way you want it to?
Maybe it’s not supposed to happen in the way you want.
Maybe there is a lack of trust somewhere that needs to be addressed.
Why am I not losing weight or becoming free of a current ailment?
Maybe your force in this scenario is not in alignment with the long-term health and systemic balance within your body.
Why can’t I focus on the things that matter most in life enough to make time for them? Maybe your default modes of how you spend time have strayed from their optimal positions to sub-optimal behaviors with frictionless gratification.
Forcing any of these will rarely result in anything more than mental, social, or physical hemorrhoids.